Move on...don't forget

Do you ever  sit  and  think to yourself...damn this is a small world, when all the people in your  past have access to your  present  and that  could only  mean your  past doesn't  want  to stop lingering around your  existence. Then you  think  again, what  could  be so bad that your past scares  you? Is it a grave secret  you  want  to keep to yourself?  A bad encounter? An abusive  childhood?  Or just  that one person you don't like and  they  have no intention of going  away.

People say forget  and move on, I say  take it  of your  mind. We never  really  move on from the  past.We walk  with it every day burdened heavily  in our hearts and soul. You  want  to know why we don't forget  and move on? Its because  the encounters of our lives in the past are what  build us into the people we are today.  What  goes around must come round

If You grew up without a father you will always strive to be the father you didn't have in your childhood. You  grew up in hatred you  strive to bring  back the love wherever you go. You  didn't go to the best of schools you strive to give your children the best education. You grew up in poverty  you strive to live a comfortable life. You have been in bad relationships you  strive to make your current what you want  it to be. We are always pushed to do better by our past, but then again there are a breed of people who are so engrossed in their ways of life they will never see the need to be different, another  days story.

I remember that time I had completed campus, I could almost  swear I was an adopted  child. Nothing I did was ever right  in the eyes of my  folks. I needed more than a miracle to convince them to enter a partnership with me or rather support me through  my numerous businesses ideas, suffice to say..they never took off (the business ideas). I grew weary, no one was employing  and friends  were too busy living flashy lives having fun and  asking me to join. Nothing  was going  on here. I had reached rock bottom. I didn't feel comfortable at home  I didn't feel comfortable anywhere else.

Everything good comes to you when you get out of your comfort zone they say. I don't really think I had a comfort zone. I was hanging in the balance. I worked  manual jobs, hanged around with  "the common folk" I had  to start somewhere. Little by little i expanded my horizons opened up to better ideas and then everything started falling in place. I don't want to say I have made it because we really never get to making it. Life is a struggle and just when you think you are comfortable  the walls come tumbling down.

Fast forward afew years after and it all makes sense to me. People will want to see you succeed  that is the only role they  will play  in your life but if you  really  want  to cut a niche for  yourself you need to get up from the passenger  seat and take the wheel yourself. We all come from different backgrounds the way your parents raised you may be different from how mine raised me (read tough love) but if you  want  to get freedom you need to  get out  there and look for it.

My dad once told  me, "you are on your on." That  was a terrible  thing to say to a seventeen year old but now that  am older I  understand. While teaching  a kid to ride a bike you  can't  hold on to them forever. There Will come a time you will have to let go, let him fall, let him get bruises and scars and eventually he will enjoy the thrill of riding that bike.

You can't keep holding on to things. Sometimes we have to let go, not because we don't care but we let go because we care and want to achieve a bigger  good. Let things go, learn from yours and other people mistakes. Things eventually fall into place. Theres always a bigger picture focus on that.

Go on now..ride your bike...chase the sunset.

Comments

Unknown said…
Wonderful bro, never let go of your vision even when it's not so clear focus and it shall be clear and the best part is reaching that vision. Now at last we are here, that feeling is priceless and we shall say amen.
Assertive said…
Our past is what makes And moulds our present and future...Do what makes you happy and not what society expects you to do.because no matter what you do society will always have something to say..

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