Give yourself a chance

Essy,hmm i don't even know how to describe this one. She is one of my good friends for all time, we met by coincidence then just like that we was working at the same place, banange we even shared a desk or was it a table, that thing in an office people put their laptops,food and even their bums on....yeah that thing. She was those lales who already got their issht figured out at a young age nini nini had a couple papers under her hat, a tone of work experience an amazingly big heart and a very kind soul;my kind of inspiration... I know your perverted minds have begun overthinking, sorry to burst your bubble... I didn't katia her... But why would i want to mess up her life like that she didn't deserve a kawaida guy like me. She deserved the best, not like am not the best or anything, mi ningemfunza tu tabia mbaya na ulevi.

Anyway this story is not about Essy she probably will be the last one to read it but hey, she is still my number one fan. My personal person. She is the one that told me I write about love, I still cant validate those rumors but I will still do what I do...

Disclaimer I'm not writing about love! don't heighten your expectations if you want romance go try Netflix or rather google on how to spice up your boring relationship. With that said, I think this is the wrong generation for people with good hearts, aki tunaumia! MFs is savage as hell sjui ni ndimu ama pilipili gani wazazi wenu walikula waki concieve.

It was hard to get love in 2018,this year....well its too early to procrastinate,but...Lord help us(us people with good hearts) In a way, am writing about love or lack of it rather.

Had this conversation with a friend today and it got me thinking, what if the last time I was in love was actually the last time(am talking about head over heels in love si hio ujinga yenu ya kuweka anniversary after 3 weeks! my socks can stay "clean" longer than that). We have become a bunch of selfish and inconsiderate animals! Or maybe we have found our true purpose because just like animals in the wild we have started coupling up for the sake of procreation and mostly for settling the urge to exchange body fluids. Am sure in the near future men will be like cockerels on the prowl, spot what you want and bite! foreplay for who??  I'm even informed the universal agreed time limit for coitus is 30 seconds. Wow humans how do you do that!


Apparently humans cant stand themselves.We are just having flings and swiping on tinder! Everything is about the nut nothing is about the heart. We have become an uninterested lot with cold hearts... where did the rain start beating us?


So many people (including myself maybe) prefer being single (single is relative...these humans private parts is not)  At least that way you have no pressure and can think on your own. And on that note somebody should define the true meaning of being single. The generation that I grew up with has become totally afraid of commitments!! They openly down with OPP....

Root cause... Some of y'all come from broken families, you have grown knowing relationships bring nothing but pain. You have watched your parents fight, you have seen them get divorced and your life will never be the same again. Some of y'all been through heartbreak after heartbreak, people are shit... you don't have the heart anymore..some of you been in toxic/abusive relationships you just can't do it again while some of were just raided wrong!! You only think about yourselves and are the poison in your own relationship!

Don't get me wrong, there are still people living their best lives together,they are people who got their perfect halves and lived a happy ever after,they got that Cinderella ending. Stay blessed people keep giving us hope...

Some people crave having someone by their side,it's totally acceptable. Some people need to be in a relationship some people need to feel the warmth of their significant other.Some people are too scared to be lonely...some people are good riding solo. I guess there needs to be some tough questions asked before getting into a union. You both need to be in check with each others needs and wants coz when the "love" dies everything else dies with it... Get you someone that compliments you, someone that is in check with your goals,needs and wants stop loving people for their big ass or for their powdered face.... genuinely get to know someone before you commit to loving them and for hecks sake y'all need to stop dating for fun. If you are single don'ts use that time wishing you were in a relationship instead work on your personal goals achieve your dreams while you still got time because once you bring in another human in your life you won't be able to change the channel on TV. Build yourself up let them find you as full as you can be so when they leave you don't feel like you lost part of you.

Then again I think people need to re-evaluate themselves,some people weren't meant for relationships, leave them alone! Do what makes you happy!

If it doesn't grow you,motivate you or change you...let that shit go!!

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Unknown said…
Great read, we really 'gotta nourish to flourish
Unknown said…
Always a great read you guy my guy...
Unknown said…
Great 🖖

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